Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Wall Of Memories

This means creating a dedicated place for family and friends to connect and remember your loved one.

  • A Consistent Place of Healing- Wall of Memories
    This memorial wall is open to anyone who wishes to place a permanent, bronze plaque.  The plaque is custom made for your loved one and can include name, dates, personal history, poem, emblems, artwork, even cast bronze portraits. The Wall of Memories is located on the center pathway on the south side of the Elm Dormitory.
    Also, many families are choosing to scatter the cremated remains of their loved one in a favorite place; the ocean, or even in the skies above. While that may seem fitting at the time, it means that you do not have a consistent place to connect with the memories of the person you loved so dearly.
    Having such permanent place - in a cemetery, mausoleum, or cremation garden - that can be visited regularly by family and friends is an essential part of the time following a death. It becomes a focal point of memorialization, and gives everyone a special place to go to remember your loved one, or to commemorate important occasions. It can help to make a birthday or anniversary less painful.
    A permanent place to reflect on your loved one becomes a way of connecting to a family's past. Visiting the resting place of grandparents or great-grandparents may provide children with an anchor to their personal history. It is a connection to the past, to love shared. It truly honors the relationship you still have – and will always have – with that person.

Sunday, January 27, 2013

Funeral and Memorial Services

All too often, families discount the value of ceremony after the death of a loved one, and we certainly don’t want you to make that mistake. Coming together after a loss is a very essential part of the grieving process.

  • Create Healing Experiences
    Create Healing Experiences
    In the depth of early grief, you might think that it would be ‘easier’ to just take care of things as simply – and as quickly –as possible. But easier – especially in this circumstance – simply isn’t better. You must set the stage for the future by giving your family and friends the opportunity to start the healing process.
  • Funeral Services
    Funeral Services
    Gathering with friends and family gives everyone the opportunity to share memories, express emotions, and find comforting support. Whether you choose burial or cremation; whether you select a formal funeral or a more relaxed memorial service, the need for acknowledgment of the loss with family and friends is ever present. We can help you create a unique meaningful ceremony to express the genuine individuality of your loved one.
    We offer families a beautiful setting in which to come together to honor your loved one. But, you may certainly choose to celebrate their life in a more unique setting. No matter where you decide to gather together, such a service will make a difference in the lives of all who attend.
  • Burial Services
    Burial Services
    If burial has been selected, usually any ceremonies we design revolve around the casket being present. You can choose to follow tradition, with a viewing, and then a funeral service in a church or memorial chapel. Or you could decide to have a more relaxed service, even in your family home.
    Let’s just say this: there is no ‘hard and fast’ formula for honoring your loved one when burial has been selected. We’re here to listen to your concerns, share our experience, and help you to arrive at the perfect way to gather together before your loved one's interment in the cemetery of your choice.
  • Cremation Services
    Cremation Services
    Cremation only refers to the manner in which you or your loved one has chosen to deal with the physical remains. We want you to know that this decision doesn’t limit the ways you can honor your loved one's life. We heartily suggest that you have a funeral or memorial service, because your need for such a healing experience is not lessened by the decision to be cremated. Again, the options are limited only by your imagination. We hope that you will contact us to discuss the wide variety of celebratory options open to you.
  • You Can Never Go Back and Do it Over
    Some say it’s harsh to remind you of this, but we know we must. We want you to honor your loved one in a way that allows you to look back, years from now, and be thankful that you did the best you could to honor their life. Creating a ceremony that calls together the hearts and minds of all who loved them is a gift to everyone involved. A gift of memories, a gift of healing...a truly priceless gift of peace-of-mind.
    Contact us today to speak with one of our directors.

Thursday, January 24, 2013

5 Ways to Make a Memorial Personal

A memorial to a loved one is one of the most personal things you will ever have to choose in your life or for another. Here are 5 ways in which honoring the memory of the recently passed can keep their memory alive in a way unique to them.
Etching Designs
An image etched on to granite can be a particularly touching tribute to a loved one. Most symbols and pictures can be incorporated onto the memorial. Whether it be a religious symbol, type of flower or personal logo, whatever was important to your cherished person can be reflected in an etching design.
Traditional Kerbed Memorials
Kerbed memorials are ideal for those who appreciate traditional burials, a style that has been popular for many years. The entire area of the grave can be marked out by the granite edges. The interior of the memorial can be filled in with whatever would be most appropriate for your loved one, whether it be soil for growing flowers or a solid piece of granite for an elegant and clean appearance.
Special Memorials
Your loved one may have had time to make decisions as to their burial before passing, and if they desired a specially made memorial they can have their particular design made. Most ideas can be reproduced in stone, so perhaps the best way to honour your loved one would be to have something unique carved for them, such as a religious statue or even a granite bench.
Flower Container
A common feature of resting places is a flower vase which can be placed on the base of a headstone or in the center of a kerbed memorial. Although they appear frequently at burial places, this is simply because they are a lovely way to add a personal touch to your loved one's grave. Leaving flowers at a grave is a touching sentiment that is very personal to those who are being remembered and those who are remembering; leaving a favorite flower at a resting place is a dignified way of showing that they will always be remembered.
Photo Plaque
If a visual memory of your loved one would be perfect for them, ceramic or hand-etched photo plaques can be added to memorials. This adds the ultimate personal touch and a way in which the best moments of a cherished life can be immortalized  Whether ceramic or hand-carved, the photo plaque can easily be maintained as part of a granite or marble memorial.

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Saturday, January 19, 2013

How A Funeral Home Can Be Of Assistance In A Time Of Bereavement

Losing a family member can be an indescribable experience. The loss can be shocking and it may result in one feeling like you have a hole in your heart. In truth, dealing with the passing could take quite a while and the process is different for everyone. However, one of the hardest things about losing a loved one is that decisions need to be made in a timely manner. Thankfully, a funeral home can assist you in making some of these choices, and in fact the assistance that it offers may be the one thing that can help put your loved one to rest in a timely and proper manner.
Not all funeral homes are the same, and you need to be sure that you locate a good one for you to deal with. Though, it might be a bit difficult when coping with the sadness of a death. Fortunately, if you follow a few easy steps you can make certain you find a funeral home that will help you place your loved one properly to rest.
To start with, make sure you check the deceased papers to check if there is some requests regarding how they would have liked their passing to be handled. Often people do give thought to how they would like things to be handled, and if you find some indication of preferences, you would want to follow these. Also, some people take some time to arrange for themselves. When that has been started you need to know who the arrangements are made with along with what remains left to be done. Thankfully, information like this may assist you and the funeral home to know the particulars of what your loved one wanted.
Bear in mind that funerals may be pricey, but any respectable funeral home should attempt to provide you with the ceremony you are looking for with a reasonable price. The internet can be very helpful in your research to find a great choice. Furthermore, personal recommendations might be another way to find a good business. You may even want to look for funeral homes that are operated by families. Usually a family run business will be one which tends to provide a higher level of customer service in addition to being a bit more personal which may be exactly what you will need in a situation such as this.
When you sit down with a funeral home be certain you have all the details in writing. The majority of employees at these establishments are aware that your thoughts are swirling so it is not uncommon to request a printed summary of fees and services. This will help you to ensure that you receive what you want and need out of the funeral service as well as making certain the staff is conscious of what their obligations are.
The truth is that you can find a number of alternatives available when it comes to finding a funeral home for your loved ones service, but one thing is universal. Each of these establishments recognizes you are coping with a devastating loss and that it is going to be a tough time for you. Because of that you may have confidence that your needs will be at the forefront of their relationship with you.

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Wednesday, January 16, 2013

When Someday Is Now - Death Sent a Reminder, Pre Plan Your Own Funeral

When my wife's mother, "Grandma G," died, she left us many gifts and intangibles. She also left us something very tangible, that in the immediate hour of need, was her most thoughtful gift. She had prearranged and paid for her funeral in exacting detail. This single act, greatly lowered the magnitude of stress that her death had caused.
When the 10:16 a.m. call came in to tell us of Grandma's death, our schedule and lives changed abruptly. Immediately, hundreds of questions crowded our heads. Sadness and strong emotions disabled us for several minutes. Within an hour of the call, my wife and I were on our way from Tallahassee to St. Petersburg, Florida. We made a list as we drove. What would we need to handle when we arrived? My wife was an only child. So, all the details were now our responsibility.
We knew Grandma had prearranged her funeral prior to her death. She had given us a small laminated card that said, "Simplicity Plan, at the time of my death call..." That small card soon became a major blessing.
For most of us, thinking about death, let alone our death, isn't a high priority. Grandma's thoughtfulness and foresight changed my opinion quickly. Now, I hope to change yours. Prepaid, pre-need arrangements should be a part of everyone's estate planning. You can start yours today!
The day following Grandma's death, we met with Tom, a funeral director from the home and cemetery she had worked with. He had the original paper work signed 9 years prior. It contained all of her selections and instructions, enough for us to know precisely what Grandma wanted. In her case, she wanted cremation, with placement in a niche, using a bronze urn, and no service, all prepaid. That sounds easy. Why bother to do that in advance? Choices, paperwork and cost are three excellent reasons.
Even with all her wishes known, it still took two hours to fill out and sign the required (by law) paperwork for an only child. Imagine having several immediate family members together under duress trying to decide:
  • Burial or cremation?
  • What would she have wanted?
  • What casket or what urn to use?
  • Which plot, crypt, or niche is right?
  • What clothing, a service or no service, music or no music, which songs?
  • Should you have a viewing, or no viewing? What should you say in the obituary?
  • Will you place a picture in the obituary or not?
  • If you do include a picture, which picture will you use?
This confusion is the most common occurrence according to funeral directors. Pre-plan and prearrange with pre-need and you eliminate it.
The two hours we spent with Tom at the funeral home was only half of the ordeal. The next day, we went to the cemetery and, working with Jack, the cemetery's representative, it took four minutes short of two hours to finish all the paperwork for Grandma's niche. Again, this was with all decisions made in advance. While we sat in a private room, the weeping and cries of disbelief of another family pierced the door. They had not made prearrangements, and they found all the decisions overwhelming. Even at a calm time, with a clear head, it would still be a challenge.
Talking about money at the time of a loved one's death might first appear tasteless. However, should a family under duress incur expenses they can't easily afford? Isn't it easy to see, because of grief, guilt, or sibling pressure, how survivors could spend more money than necessary? Grandma prepaid for her arrangements 9 years before her death. The funeral home and cemetery honored the details and the pricing of the contract. There was no pressure, no questioning, no hints or insinuations about changing anything. One last point about money and prearrangements, since Grandma made and paid for her selections, the costs for the same products and services had more than doubled. So Grandma's foresight also saved a significant sum of money for her estate.
Florida law requires funeral homes and cemeteries to place the funds from prearranged services (pre-need in the vernacular) in escrow. Many other states have similar laws. The Funeral Homes or Cemeteries cannot withdraw the funds until the time of use (at need). The money gains interest for the Funeral Home/Cemetery, which helps them keep up with inflation. There are also various provisions for canceling contracts and for transferring them to other funeral homes or cemeteries. And, on Grandma's plan, had we buried her without knowing of the prepaid plan, upon discovery of it, the funeral home would have refunded what she'd paid.
There will be variations between States and Funeral Homes on the plans offered and their costs. So, investigate and ask questions. Fully understand what you want before you buy a pre-need plan. Grandma's plan was "The Simplicity Plan," offered by Stewart Enterprises Inc. There are other plans available. Simply ask your chosen local Funeral Home and they will help you devise a pre-need plan that reflects you, your wishes and your budget.
Based on our experience, there was nothing more thoughtful that Grandma could have done. In the hour of humanity's greatest stress, Grandma had already lessened the trauma of dealing with funeral arrangements. And realistically, who better to make all the choices than her?
Once you have completed the details and signed up for your pre-need services, give a copy of the plan with the contact information to your personal representative, a close family member or one of your adult children. It is a thoughtful gift for your survivors.

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Sunday, January 13, 2013

Daily Email Affirmations

Seven days a week we'll send you a short message of support. That's 365 days of wise words, helpful tips, and healing activities.
  • Letting the Sun Shine In Daily Emails

    When someone you love dies, grieving that loss can take a long time. As in any emotional journey, there are rough spots to be weathered, and moments when you catch a glimpse of a sunnier horizon. We want to be your daily companion, helping you to let the sun shine back into your life. These daily emails provide encouragement and gentle reminders of the recovery process. Interested?
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    • Your daily affirmation emails have given me hope for a better tomorrow. - Emily
    • Your messages have helped me reflect the life my grandfather lived and have helped me heal. - Dan
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Thursday, January 10, 2013

It's All about the Relationship

It's All about the Relationship

Honoring the life of your loved one means you value the relationship you shared. We look forward to helping you decide how to celebrate that bond, and honor the unique individual you've lost. We can make suggestions to enhance your tribute ideas. Together we will create a fitting and memorable event.Contact us today to discuss the possibilities.

Monday, January 7, 2013

Think About Prearranging Your Funeral

It is the one thing we don't want to think about and it is the one thing that is evitable, our funeral. No matter how healthy we are, someday we will die. It is a sad but truthful fact of life. Once we face it, the better our life can be and once we face it, we should also consider how nice it would be for our loved ones, if we begin planning for that day now, by planning some or all the steps that we want to be taken for our final plans and prearranging for your funeral now.
There are many reasons why it is good to plan ahead and to plan for our funeral. One of the best reasons is that this keeps our family from doing it. You know when that dreadful day comes and we die, they are going to be heartbroken and possibly in shock. Do you want them to deal with every little hassle and every little detail of the ceremony? What you plan now is just one more thing they won't have to do later.
Another good reason for planning for your funeral and paying for it now is the fact that just likes everything else in life, the prices of burials rises with each passing year. If you have plans made, a burial spot paid, a casket bought, you will be saving money and your family won't have to spend any extra later.
Okay, you are decided this is a good idea; you want to plan on your burial. Where do you begin?
You might want to begin by making an appointment to speak to someone at your local funeral parlor. Ask if they have a prepaid package. If they do, go over each step with them. You can make every decision about the funeral or you can leave some of the decisions for your love ones to make. Some of the decisions that the director will probably ask you to make are:
* A casket. If saving money is one reason you are going ahead with your plans then you should consider buying one of these. Ask to see either the caskets themselves or pictures of the caskets available for purchasing.
* Whether you want your funeral to have a showing the night before the burial or just a brief showing before the actual ceremony.
* Preferences on who you wish to officiate at your service.
* Preferences on what type of music that is to be played.
* Picking out the thank you cards for your loved ones to send to those who help during the funeral and during their trying time.
* Display cards that guests take home with them that generally include a bible verse and a little information about you (date of birth, date of passing).
* Which newspapers you wish for your obituary to be recorded. This is something your loved ones will have to pay for at the time of the event.
* Where you wish to be buried. Once you make this decision, you should talk to the cemetery and see if it is possible to buy your plot and burial now. You may even be able to go ahead pay for your opening and closing. These, of course, are the main parts of any funeral cost.
* Once you have your burial plot paid for you, you may also want to consider buying your marker.
The average cost of a basic burial will run you close to $5,000. With each passing year, this price will increase. Consider doing your family a favor and consider prearranging your funeral.

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Friday, January 4, 2013

We have years of experience caring for families, from all walks of life.

We have years of experience caring for families, from all walks of life. Each family comes to us because they know we are the leaders in our profession, dedicated to excellence in service, and have the highest integrity.

At Fairmont Memorial Park, we offer a wide variety of locations to choose from and prices to fit all budgets. To schedule a no obligation tour of the memorial park, please contact the office at (707) 425-4697. COA230.

Tuesday, January 1, 2013