Sunday, September 29, 2013

Fairmont Memorial Park

Mausoleum crypts and niches are available for families choosing a burial or cremation with inturnment. Mausoleum entombment is considered to be the finest type of burial known to man. A mausoleum’s solid construction signifies durability, devotion and honor.

Thursday, September 26, 2013

Post Funeral Check List

Real Estate Properties change all jointly held deeds.
    Solano County Assessor/Recorder    (707) 784-6290

Notify Insurance Companies and file claims
    Life Insurance
    Medical, Health, Disability, Travel, and Accident
    Retirement Benefits, Annuities, Pensions
    Home Owners
    Car Insurance

Apply for appropriate benefits when applicable.
    Social Security Survivor Benefits
         700 Main St. Ste. 220, Suisun City    (800) 772-1213
         Web Address:
    Workmen’s Compensation Benefits
    Civil Service Benefits
    Union Benefits
    Survivor Benefits from deceased’s employer

Notify accountant/tax preparer. Provide certified copies
    of death certificate, previously filed tax return forms, and current earnings and dividend statements.

Notify Stockbroker
    Transfer ownership of joint or solely owned stock, bonds and mutual funds.
    Cancel any open orders arranged by the deceased.
    IRA and Retirement Accounts.
Notify Bank
    Change all jointly held accounts and correct tax identification numbers (usually Social Security number).
    Cancel Direct Deposit Retirement Benefit Payments.
    Re-establish title of Safety Deposit Box.
    Re-establish all outstanding mortgages, notes, leases, accounts payable/receivable, etc.
    Apply for any credit life insurance which may exist on loans, credit cards and mortgages.

Notify Department of Motor Vehicles to transfer titles
    of all registered vehicles, mobile homes, and boats registered in the deceased’s name.
    160 Serrano Dr, Fairfield    (800) 777-0133
    621 Orange Dr, Vacaville    (800) 777-0133

Notify All Credit Card Account Companies
    Apply for all credit card life insurance coverage when applicable.
    Cancel all individual held cards of the deceased.
    Change all jointly held accounts

Department of Veteran Services
    675 Texas Street, Fairfield    (707) 784-6590
    120 W. Main Street, Woodland    (530) 406-4851

Ordering More Death Certificates
     Solano County Recorder    (707) 784-6294

Monday, September 23, 2013

Funeral Etiquette

Many well-intentioned people avoid going to funerals and other types of memorial services because of the intense emotion and sadness associated with these events. Knowing what is appropriate in terms of etiquette can put you at ease as memorial services provide a mechanism for mourning the dead and a sense of finality and completion for the living.
If you have doubts as to whether you should attend a funeral, do try. The family will appreciate your presence and if you are able, offer a few words of kindness and support. This gracious act will be much appreciated as well.
Attending the Services
Frequently, the first event after a death is called a wake, a visitation, or calling hours. In many cases, this occurs in a funeral home and the casket (if present) has flowers and personal items on display. The family receives visits from friends who offer condolences and words of support.
A funeral (or memorial service) is attended by family and friends, and also neighbors, co-workers, and anyone who had a relationship with the deceased. Frequently, prayers are said, a eulogy is delivered, and any culturally-specific customs are practiced.
Burials, if appropriate, follow the funeral services, and frequently a shovelful of dirt is dropped into the grave as a sign of respect. The family initiates this act and anyone close to the deceased may follow suit.
In many cultures, the family shares a meal with the mourners after the ceremonies. This is a symbolic act that separates the continuity of life from death and the events associated with it. During this meal it is both typical and appropriate to share stories and memories of the deceased which invoke laughter, camaraderie, and levity.
Funeral Attire
It has been a longstanding tradition that mourners should wear black, but this is no longer the case (however, a bright, cheerful color isn't the most appropriate choice, either). For men, dark suits and ties are appropriate, and for women, dresses or suits are a reasonable choice.
Sending Condolences
Recalling stories, fond memories, and warm anecdotes is always appropriate, and letting the family know how much the person meant to you and all they did for you is always appreciated.
Some more generic ways to express sympathy might include
- How kind the deceased person was
- That you are very sorry to hear the sad news
- That you had genuine feelings for the deceased and are bereaved yourself
- How much the deceased will be missed by family and friends

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Friday, September 20, 2013

Last Words: Talking About Death by Linda F Watson

In general, in northern and western culture at least, we are uncomfortable talking about death. This is generally not a problem because there are many other topics to claim our attention. However, the lack of fluency in the language of death can become a problem when the real thing confronts us.

If death were a rarity, only experienced by a few, the fact of such a stumbling block would be a minor matter. Since it is not, since death will come eventually to each one of us and to people we love, it is regrettable to settle for being tongue-tied when other possibilities exist for us.

It begins with the use of the word "death" and its derivatives: died, dying, dead.

We have become a culture unused to such words when it comes to people. Plants die, legislation dies but people "pass" or "cross over." "He got bad news," we allow, or "she's losing ground," we say, as though the process of dying was something that could be exchanged the next day for good news or ground gained.

There are good reasons to learn to call death by its name:

  • it can make it easier for others around us to broach the subject,
  • it can be a concrete way to model for children that death is a part of the experience of this life,
  • it can allow those who are dying to come in from the cold of our conspiracy of silence, and
  • it can help us reclaim the end of life, as its beginning, as a time of opportunity.

One of life's truths is that times of crisis can open doors and create new options. This is true for the crisis embodied in approaching death. Many are the stories of mended relationships, discovery of purpose and finally getting to a place of saying "I love you" right out loud when death draws near.

These things happen because the fact of death shakes us up and sometimes we need that in order to set appropriate priorities and seek to make the most of each day.

To talk about death is to talk about life, ultimately. It is to be open to the possibilities of the moment and to find perspective. It is a call to examine what each day brings and focus upon relationships. It is to acknowledge our mortality and in so doing, to find opportunity to handle matters of meaning and truth.

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Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Pre-Planning A Funeral Is Important Part 2

Pre-Planning Checklist

For many, it feels like there’s an overwhelming amount of things to think about! But in all honesty, taking control of the important things in life just feels good; you know it's the right thing to do for you, and your family.

Arrange and Delegate
The people who know and care about you will be there when you need them. You only need to provide them with instructions, important financial details, and then relax. You’re in good hands.
  • Give your Executor a copy of your Will. Safety deposit boxes are often opened up during the estate settlement process, long after the funeral. Any funeral planning documents therein can be of no help to your executor.
  • Make sure your representative has a list of important account information or telephone numbers for retirement plans, insurance policies, investments, bank accounts, safe-deposit boxes, properties, preferred law and accountant firms and mortuaries. Remind your personal representative that the Social Security Administration will need to be called and, if you're receiving benefits such as those from the Veteran's Administration, they should be contacted as well.
  • Designate a power of attorney to ensure that proper information can be accessed in the event of your illness or death. Make sure the power of attorney over health care or the health care directive and a living will are in place so that your wishes are carried out if you are unable to do so.
  • Make arrangements for telephone and utilities services, and newspaper and magazine deliveries, to be cancelled.
Pay for:
  • Cemetery and memorialization services
  • Funeral arrangements, including clergy, florist and transportation
  • Make arrangements for pets to find a new home.
You can also contact us for additional information. We're pleased to answer any questions you may have, without obligation.

Saturday, September 14, 2013

Pre-planning A Funeral Is Important Part 1

Pre-Planning Checklist

For many, it feels like there’s an overwhelming amount of things to think about! But in all honesty, taking control of the important things in life just feels good; you know it's the right thing to do for you, and your family.


Laying the foundation for a well thought out plan for you or a loved one takes a bit of time, but, it's worth every moment spent. After all, you’re setting the stage for a more relaxed and enjoyable life, because you’ll have the peace-of-mind preparedness brings. Here’s what to do to get started:
  • Prepare a contact list of individuals who should be notified in a medical emergency or death.
  • Write an obituary or simply jot down information you would like included in an obituary.
  • Decide where obituary and memorial information should appear.
Choose the type of service you would like including the burial you prefer and make those arrangements. You will need to decide:
  • Cemetery lot location
  • Casket type; cremation urn type
  • Vault or sectional crypt
  • Type of service: religious, military, non-denominational, or fraternal
  • The contact details for the funeral home you designate to care for you
  • Pallbearers, music, flowers, scripture or other readings
  • Charity to receive donations in lieu of flowers, if donations are preferred
  • Select the speakers and the eulogies that you would want to represent you.
  • Decide what organizations or church will benefit from memorial donations in your name.

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Memorial Throw With "I Have You In My Heart" Poem

Memorial throw with "I Have You in My Heart" poem ~ a Dulaya Memories original.

• Comforting poem woven into this beautiful throw.

• 40" x 50" throw is perfect to use as a lap blanket.

• Dedication card attached for personalization.


I have you in my heart

And there you'll always be

As I dwell among the angels

In peace and harmony

Pray for strength and courage

Please do not feel dismay

Know that love surrounds me

In His perfect presence today

Life is forever changed

Because for now we are apart

So until our heavenly reunion

I have you in my heart

Sunday, September 8, 2013

You Are Not Alone

With our online grief support you're assured of our commitment to helping you through this difficult time. It doesn't matter what time of day, or what day of the week you need support, we're here for you. You can access online counseling services, join in group grief support, or watch our interactive videos, anytime: 24/7. No matter how you feel at this moment, you have our commitment - you're never alone.

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Thursday, September 5, 2013

We Provide A Beautiful Setting

 Gathering with friends and family gives everyone the opportunity to share memories, express emotions, and find comforting support. Whether you choose burial or cremation; whether you select a formal funeral or a more relaxed memorial service, the need for acknowledgment of the loss with family and friends is ever present. We can help you create a unique meaningful ceremony to express the genuine individuality of your loved one.

We offer families a beautiful setting in which to come together to honor your loved one. But, you may certainly choose to celebrate their life in a more unique setting. No matter where you decide to gather together, such a service will make a difference in the lives of all who attend.

Monday, September 2, 2013

Why do Americans and Canadians celebrate Labor Day? - Kenneth C. Davis

In the United States and Canada, the first Monday of September is a federal holiday, Labor Day. Originally celebrated in New York City's Union Square in 1882, Labor Day was organized by unions as a rare day of rest for the overworked during the Industrial Revolution. Kenneth C. Davis illustrates the history of Labor Day from Union Square to today.