Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Veterans & Military Burial Benefits

The VA does not make funeral arrangements or perform cremations. Families should make these arrangements with a funeral provider.
Families may choose to have a service or a visitation prior to going to the national cemetery, and come back to Bryan-Braker in Fairfield for a reception.

Sunday, April 27, 2014

Helping Children To Understand Death

Talking about death with children can be very difficult in the context of the unexpected death of a loved one. For this reason, it is good to help children talk about death as it comes up in the context of everyday living, well ahead of an intense personal loss.
The passing of the seasons, the death of a pet, the death of a more distant elderly person: any of these can become an occasion to begin a conversation about dying. Predictably, once the topic is on the table, as it were, kids can be relied upon to return to it from time-to-time, as long as they get the message it is okay to do so. Children's innate curiosity can be a bonus in this area and many others, as long as you meet their inquiries with honesty and caring, and don't try to offer too much all at once. Your task, in advance, would be to remind yourself what you believe or know about death and dying and then, if possible, to translate some of these concepts into "kid-speak". The following may provide a guide:
1. Death is a part of life-all living things die eventually and sometimes that death means beauty for us, in the form of coloured autumn leaves for example.
2. A person who is dying is still a person-someone who is dying still has ideas and can even laugh at times.
3. Death is not contagious-being around someone who is dying is not going to cause anyone else to die.
4. Thinking angry thoughts about another person does not cause them to die.
5. There are people and rituals to help us deal with death.
6. Death is not always a sad thing for the person dying--sometimes it can be a welcome way to get away from pain and sickness
7. When we love someone and they love us, that love will always matter, even if the person dies
In an environment open to such things, children will bring forward questions, some of which may reveal some surprising notions. Assessing how much to tell, or even what exactly is the crux of the question for a young child, can be a challenge. Still, rest assured: typically, the questions will keep coming over time until the child's central question is finally answered.
While capable of touching concern for others, children are essentially egocentric. This is appropriate and to be expected. However, one of the results of this egocentric focus is that children may fear they have caused the death somehow. Especially younger children may need to be assured, sometimes repeatedly, that nothing they did or did not do brought on the death of a loved one.
Like adults, children grieve and that grief may be expressed in crying, guilt, denial or anger. Depending upon the circumstances and the closeness of the person who has died, a child's grief may be shown in fear of falling asleep, nightmares, clinging behaviors and "acting out" in a variety of ways. It is important to allow kids to talk about and otherwise express their feelings. If you are also grieving, let them know it, so they will not feel alone in their distress.
There are many books available to assist in helping children cope with the death of a loved one. Quality bookstores will have age-appropriate selections. Still, it is the conversation with significant adults in their lives that will most help children find a way to accommodate death in their worlds.

Linda Watson is a former pastoral and supportive care professional and the author of Facing Death: A Companion in Words and Images, a beautifully illustrated book for the dying and for those who care for and about them.

Thursday, April 24, 2014

The Never Forget Pendant & Chain

The Never Forget Pendant & Chain is sterling silver, is designed by Deborah J. Birdoes, and is from her "Inspirational Blessings™" collection of jewelry.

• A beautiful reminder of a loved one that has passed.

• This item comes with an 18" chain, pre-packaged in a gift box.

• Also included is a card with a verse from scripture.

Quote from Scripture:

"But watch out! Be very careful never to forget what you have seen the LORD

do for you. Do not let these things escape from your mind as long as you live! And be sure to pass

them on to your children and grandchildren." Deuteronomy 4:9

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Monday, April 21, 2014

Memory Glass

What is a Memory Glass?

Memory Glass provides a unique method of memorializing your family, friends and pets by suspending cremated remains within solid glass sculptures and keepsake jewelry.

At Memory Glass, the process of dealing with loved one's cremated remains is a delicate procedure. To ensure that the greatest of care is taken with the cremated remains entrusted to us, Memory Glass has employed safety and security measures that go above and beyond the lawful requirements.

As your trust is of our utmost concern, please don't hesitate to call/email us to learn more about our procedures.

Because Memories are Forever

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Friday, April 18, 2014

We Offer A Beautiful Setting And Much More

 Gathering with friends and family gives everyone the opportunity to share memories, express emotions, and find comforting support. Whether you choose burial or cremation; whether you select a formal funeral or a more relaxed memorial service, the need for acknowledgment of the loss with family and friends is ever present. We can help you create a unique meaningful ceremony to express the genuine individuality of your loved one.

We offer families a beautiful setting in which to come together to honor your loved one. But, you may certainly choose to celebrate their life in a more unique setting. No matter where you decide to gather together, such a service will make a difference in the lives of all who attend.

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Online Grief Support

With our online grief support you're assured of our commitment to helping you through this difficult time. It doesn't matter what time of day, or what day of the week you need support, we're here for you. You can access online counseling services, join in group grief support, or watch our interactive videos, anytime: 24/7. No matter how you feel at this moment, you have our commitment - you're never alone.

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Friday, April 11, 2014

Many Ways Of Honoring Life

Honoring the achievements of your loved ones and celebrating the life you shared together are the cornerstones of healing after loss

It's All about the Relationship
Honoring the life of your loved one means you value the relationship you shared. We look forward to helping you decide how to celebrate that bond, and honor the unique individual you've lost. We can make suggestions to enhance your tribute ideas. Together we will create a fitting and memorable event. Contact us today to discuss the possibilities.

Tribute Videos
Your family photographs are skillfully blended with wonderful graphic images and music, to create an elegantly emotive cinematic video. It can be an integral part of any funeral or memorial service. After the ceremony, the video is sure to become a treasured family keepsake. And, we can make copies as gifts for family and friends.

Personalized Printing
Our memorial bookmarks, service programs, prayer cards, and folders can all include a favorite photo, poem or prose tribute to your loved one. We can add a uniquely caring element to your service, so your guests can leave with a treasured keepsake.

Memorial Websites
The traditional newspaper obituary is quickly being replaced by the memorial website. We’ve taken the concept further than anyone else. Our memorial sites are not just a repository of family photos and videos; they’re Web 2.0 tools for connecting with family and friends, all in honor of your loved one. We invite you to take a tour, so you can see its power to celebrate connections, honor a life, and record the love you shared.

Live Funeral Webcasting
The newest innovation in funeral service, webcasting, allows everyone you love to attend your loved one's service. A webcast is viewed live over the Internet, and archived for delayed viewing.

Music is important part of a funeral service. The bagpipes have been commemorating the loss of loved ones for hundreds of years. The Bagpipes are a powerfully touch to our deepest emotions, and express feelings that words alone may fail to convey.

Musician & Soloist

The music at the services should reflect your loved one’s life. Live musicians up lift the spirit; a complete band, soloist, pianist, guitarist, or any other type of music. A bagpipe at the graveside or a trumpet playing taps can be very memorable.

Dove Release
A flock of white doves are usually released at the end of the graveside ceremony. The flock circles overhead several times before flying back to their home. The dove symbolizes the departed spirit making its final journey home.

Horse-Drawn Funeral Coach
The vintage, late 19th century horse-drawn funeral coach is a unique tribute available for graveside services. In this time-honored manner, a horse-drawn funeral coach adds a touch of elegance to any service.

Butterfly Release
Many people believe that butterflies symbolize spirit, representing freedom and beauty as they take flight. When we experience the vital connection between butterflies and nature, we tend to instinctively feel that peace and harmony are truly around us. Why not invite a butterfly release to your loved one’s memorial service, to help celebrate a life lived?

Learn More about Honoring Your Loved One
You knew your loved one better than anyone else. We’ve got years of experience. Together, we’ll design the perfect memorial or funeral service for your loved one. If you're ready to discuss the options, or simply have questions about our services, please call us at (707) 425-4697, or send us an email inquiry.

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Last Words: Talking About Death

In general, in northern and western culture at least, we are uncomfortable talking about death. This is generally not a problem because there are many other topics to claim our attention. However, the lack of fluency in the language of death can become a problem when the real thing confronts us.

If death were a rarity, only experienced by a few, the fact of such a stumbling block would be a minor matter. Since it is not, since death will come eventually to each one of us and to people we love, it is regrettable to settle for being tongue-tied when other possibilities exist for us.

It begins with the use of the word "death" and its derivatives: died, dying, dead.

We have become a culture unused to such words when it comes to people. Plants die, legislation dies but people "pass" or "cross over." "He got bad news," we allow, or "she's losing ground," we say, as though the process of dying was something that could be exchanged the next day for good news or ground gained.

There are good reasons to learn to call death by its name:

  • it can make it easier for others around us to broach the subject,
  • it can be a concrete way to model for children that death is a part of the experience of this life,
  • it can allow those who are dying to come in from the cold of our conspiracy of silence, and
  • it can help us reclaim the end of life, as its beginning, as a time of opportunity.

One of life's truths is that times of crisis can open doors and create new options. This is true for the crisis embodied in approaching death. Many are the stories of mended relationships, discovery of purpose and finally getting to a place of saying "I love you" right out loud when death draws near.

These things happen because the fact of death shakes us up and sometimes we need that in order to set appropriate priorities and seek to make the most of each day.

To talk about death is to talk about life, ultimately. It is to be open to the possibilities of the moment and to find perspective. It is a call to examine what each day brings and focus upon relationships. It is to acknowledge our mortality and in so doing, to find opportunity to handle matters of meaning and truth.

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Saturday, April 5, 2014

Funeral Homes Guide You Through This Trying Time

Some funeral homes can provide families with far more than just a service or gathering to honor a person's life. For those who have lost someone, finding a facility that can handle this process for you is very important. What most people don't realize, though, is that they do have options. You can turn to any facility in your area and contact the company for information. You can get a quote for care, and you can learn what other services the facility offers. Though you may feel that you just want to get this over with, it pays to look for the company that can make this process more about healing than suffering.
Providing Your Options
Funeral homes are not all the same. Some are very methodical and limited in what they do. They may help you to put together a basic service and then to set up an opportunity to make basic decisions. One thing that you may want, though, is the assurance of numerous options. You may want to be able to choose between various types of services. You may want to follow very specific, traditional or religious beliefs and processes. You may just want to know what you should be doing right now. The right facilities can help you to make that happen.
Giving You Help
This is not easy. It will not be easy for some time. Yet, the very best providers are able to offer you and your immediate family members with the counseling and compassion you need. Whether you just need to talk to someone who understands or you need to get answers as to why this is happening, it pays to visit a facility where professional counselors are available to help you. You may have children who are experiencing loss, or you may be so shocked you have no idea what the next step is. Counseling can help.
Guiding You
Decisions have to be made. The process has to happen. You may not know what to do or how to do it, but these professionals do. They can give you options and help you to put together a plan for celebrating the life of your loved one. They will work with you to ensure every detail is thought of and planned for. You don't have to worry about making mistakes. They will guide you through the process.
Funeral homes are more than just places to go and get a service performed. They provide you with care, comfort and counseling services at a time when you may be suffering significantly. Look for a company or provider that is able to give you the guidance you need through this.

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Wednesday, April 2, 2014

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