Even in the immediate aftermath of a great loss, we must embrace life through some basic survival techniques.
Step 1: Accept the inevitable
Accept that death is inevitable. Allow yourself to feel the pain knowing that the departed would not want you to suffer long.
Step 2: Avoid big decisions
Avoid making big decisions, except for those concerning arrangements for the person who has passed.
Step 3: Lean on others
Lean on others to provide what you cannot.
Step 4: Read about grief
Read about the stages of grief to alleviate fears that what you are feeling is unnatural. Don’t take misplaced anxiety or anger out on others.
Step 5: Plan gatherings
Plan for anniversaries, birthdays, and holidays, allowing family members to celebrate a life, using music, stories, or family traditions to provide comfort.
Step 6: Care for yourself
Care for yourself by maintaining a balanced diet and regular sleep. You may have lost energy and may have trouble concentrating.
Take advantage of counseling resources available locally or go online to find out more.
Step 7: Rejoin humanity
Rejoin humanity in the weeks and months afterwards. Give yourself enough time to get up and running again.
Did You Know?
Did you know? The Victorians allowed two to four years to grieve after a death.