Sunday, April 30, 2017
The Broken Heart Pendant & Chain is designed by Deborah J. Birdoes from her "Inspirational Blessings" collection of jewelry.
• This sterling silver necklace comes with an 18" chain, packaged in a gift box.
• Also included is a poem card:
Hearts have many shapes and colors you will find.
A canvas of many feelings, opened one page at a time.
At the risk of being hurt, a heart gives openly.
Searching for another, sharing a part selflessly.
Yet sometimes it is broken, 'tho it beats just the same.
Pointing to the other heart, not facing the blame.
A heart that was whole is suddenly broken in two.
'Tho every new dawn gives a start to begin anew!
With the touch of our Father, hope is behind each new door.
Giving the heart another chance to love again once more.
Time will heal the wound and the memory you'll recall.
It is better to have loved than to have felt nothing at all.
©Deborah J. Birdoes
— Quote from Scripture: "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." -Proverbs 147:3
God can mend a broken heart, but we have to give him all the pieces. -Unknown
Wednesday, April 26, 2017
Everything you've worked for the past few days now leads to this point, the actual delivery of the eulogy on the day of the service.
Here's a checklist for the day :-
1. Allow plenty of time to get there early;
2. bring two copies of the eulogy with you (one you can later entrust to a helper);
3. bring a pen, a bottle of water and tissue paper;
4. allow time for yourself to relax and center, preferably in a secluded environment, no matter how short a time you have.
5. connect with your higher power and/or say a prayer, if within your belief system.
Monday, April 24, 2017
Funeral flower arrangements are an important final tribute to make during a difficult time. Learn about funeral flower arrangements with help from the go-to color and floral expert for political powerhouses, leading fashion and home designers in this free video clip.
Saturday, April 22, 2017
Tuesday, April 18, 2017
This step is about assembling all the "building blocks", or pieces of information about the deceased, together in an organized way in order to create a well written eulogy speech.
A eulogy is a funeral speech, and like all speeches, it has three parts :- a beginning, a middle and an end. All good speeches follow this format.
The aim now is to write out the speech word for word, as you would read it out at the funeral or service.
Do not attempt to "wing it" from memory. It must be written down. This video explains why this is necessary.
It also explains how to resolve differences in views of the deceased from different family members. One may have only good things to say about the deceased, whilst another may not. This video explains some of the ways to resolve this.
A guiding principle in writing the eulogy is to remember what exactly the word itself, a "eulogy", is and how it's defined.
The word "eulogy" means "good words" in Greek. And whilst the deceased may have caused some of us pain when they were alive (hopefully only a small minority of readers), we want to go beyond that to find those "good words". Hint at the bad times, if you must, but dwell on the good points. After all, it's a final send off. Whatever differences you had in life, now is the time to transcend them. If you have to mention the deceased's faults, as some family members may insist, this video explains ways of gently and tactfully doing this.
Another important function of the eulogy is to comfort the grieving.
This video then shows how we assemble and edit the pieces of information we have, and to connect them together in a meaningful way. After this is done, opening phrases are added to the start, and closing phrases are added to the end.
If you're the only speaker, a minimum speaking duration of five to seven minutes is recommended, and a little longer if you can. If your eulogy is too short, it may be a let down for those present who travelled far and wide, or who took time off work, to hear the eulogy. The next step, step five, is "Rehearse and Refine".
Friday, April 14, 2017
Tuesday, April 11, 2017
This step of this eulogy video tutorial series is about the material that will be in your funeral speech. Rather than trying to assembling the eulogy speech "finished" right from the start, in one go, we take time instead to gather raw information.
What is the raw information, or "building blocks"? It can be anything. Really, anything. For example, a memory from the past,
your feelings for the person, the quality of the person, a quote the person liked to repeat, your experiences growing up, what the person was like in their prime, the people the person loved, a
memento, a funny experience involving the person, how the person made a difference in people's lives, what the person said that made a difference to you, and so on.
We want to write all these down, regardless of the order in which they'll be placed in the final speech. Or whether we think we can use the material or not. We want to collect as many of these
points as possible. Write it down. You may remember it now, but may soon forget, and know you've forgotten something important. Ask me how I know!
This step of the video series involves just gathering all the facts, feelings, memories etc in the form of lots of notes. The next step in this video series is the arranging of this information into a proper funeral speech, but that's not the goal in this step.
It will help if we spend some time in quiet contemplation about the deceased. Find a place where you won't be disturbed. Then close your eyes, relax, and bring yourself back to an earlier time, when the person was alive. Commune with the memories of the past. Spend quiet time in contemplation. Then, as the ideas come to you for the funeral speech, write it all down.
An important point is to talk to family members, or close friends, about their memories. Involve them in the process. This will enrich the material with which you have to work with. Get on the phone and talk, or better still, have a face to face meeting.
By the end of this process you should have gathered a lot of material. The next step of this video series is crafting this material into a good funeral speech.
Sunday, April 9, 2017
This is the second step in this six part series.
There are two basic kinds of eulogy - a biographical and a personal view. You can have one or the other, or a combination. A biographical eulogy just speaks to the facts of the person's life. Where they were born, where they lived, where they worked, who they were married to, who were their children etc. I feel the biographical eulogy may be a little outdated now because it does not speak to feelings.
The other type of eulogy, which is more common, is the personal view eulogy. Here we speak about our feelings for the person, tell our memories of them and how they affected our lives. In other words, it's based on our feelings and our personal views. So it's not "objective", but then, a eulogy need not be objective. Later in this video series we'll explore the meaning of the word "eulogy", and the purpose of it. Let's agree to throw strict objectivity out the window!
This video gives you polar examples of these two types of eulogies, or funeral speeches. The second example is a eulogy for a father. I think most of us would prefer the second example to the first.
Most modern eulogies nowadays are a combination of the two, leaning towards the personal view.
The task of delivering a eulogy can be shared between two or more family members.
Also, if you're the only one delivering the eulogy, you can ask other family members for content to put into your eulogy. This process can be quite informative to you, and healing. Things you never knew about them while they were alive.
Thursday, April 6, 2017
At some point in our lives we may be called, perhaps unexpectedly, to give a eulogy for a close family member. Should it fall upon your shoulders, this six part video series was created for you. In your time of grief and need, I hope this video series helps.
This first video of the series focuses on you. The deliverer of the eulogy. The less you are anxious or worried, the better the eulogy you can deliver. It's very understandable that you may be in a place of turmoil at the moment, having lost a loved one. So it's important to center yourself, and find a place of peace and calm within, or try your best to. In looking after yourself, you will be better able to think, and craft the funeral or memorial speech, and to deliver it.
This first video offers a very simple meditation to help us relax and find the peace that is somewhere within. Don't be limited to this meditation, there are many that can be found on the web.
This video is subtitled "A Moment For Yourself". And you should do exactly that. Find a quite place away from the phone and other people, and simply relax, watch your breath, say a prayer or just contemplate. Know that Angels hold you in the palm of their hands.
Saturday, April 1, 2017
Funeral planning is not something that we want to consider or think about however it is a reality we all have to face at some time or another in the course of our lives. While the subject may not be one you are very familiar with or one that you even want to be familiar with it is nevertheless helpful to have a good understanding of the various factors that make up funeral services.
When it comes to funeral planning the funeral director has a major role to play. The majority of funeral homes in the United States are family affairs. Some funeral homes are small and intimate with the funeral director fulfilling a number of functions including collecting the body of the deceased and transporting it to the funeral home for preparation for the funeral service. Other larger funeral homes often employ morticians that specialize in the preparation of the bodies.
Funeral directors are also known as either morticians or undertakers. These are qualified professionals who work in the business of funeral rites and control the whole funeral planning and funeral service. Among their tasks are embalming of the body which entails the removal of the blood and the insertion of embalming fluid, burial or cremation preferences, and planning and arranging the funeral ceremony.
Funeral directors are also approached by the family or friends of the deceased with regards to special requests such as ensuring that the loved one is dressed in a specific outfit, the way the body is arranged in the casket, and with regards to the application of cosmetics or substances to the parts of the body that will be visible during the service to enhance the deceased person's appearance.
Funeral planning involves a number of different issues and since there are so many practical considerations that must be addressed it is advisable to utilize the services of a professional funeral director. A funeral director is also experienced in dealing with grief and the grieving process and therefore proves beneficial in assisting the family through this process. There are also a number of legal requirements when it comes to funeral services and funeral planning that the undertaker or mortician can guide you on.
Generally speaking a funeral is conducted at the funeral home and then proceeds to the burial ground for the interment which the funeral director will oversee to ensure that it is carried out correctly. Funeral directors will usually make a view or visitation possible and this is often scheduled for the day preceding the funeral service so as to allow the family and friends an opportunity to gather together at the home to pay their respects to the deceased in private. While available to offer and provide assistance if need be the funeral director remains discreetly in the background.
Funeral directors are an essential part of funeral planning and funeral services and can oftentimes prove to be a great comfort for those who are grieving. They handle the details associated with the death which allows the family to cope better with their loss. They help to guide the loved ones through this time in their lives and enable them to honor the deceased in a respectful and proper manner.
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